Ben Pasley has written an article at Churchthink.com that is called Kingdom Forgiveness: The Basics which actually focuses a good deal on the “why?” questions that we ask about forgiving others. It continues on into some very practical action steps. Here is an excerpt from the heart of the article which points to forgiveness as the key tool for receiving the kingdom of God:

“Coming Together is the Goal

We know that the Kingdom is not driven by–nor contained by–the basic principles of this world. Romans 14:17 says, “For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit…” so we would not jump to the conclusion that the results of binding and loosing is us getting richer in material things. Sons become rich in many ways, and it is the heart of the Father to bless us, but that is not the principle behind this promise–not in this passage. It’s true: this passage in Matthew 18 where Jesus says, “Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.” is often embraced by the “ask anything in my name” crowd who want to live in bigger houses. They say to poverty, “be bound,” and to riches, “be loosed.” I don’t see that promise here. I most certainly do have the promise of provision, however, and I am not afraid to claim it. Dad blesses me because I am His son and He needs no other reason. I do not need to appeal to any special formula to be blessed by God. I have an eternal inheritance with Christ and I am enjoying some of it right now. In this passage in Matthew, however, we are to receive the emphasis on the joy of coming together…”  Read all of the article here.

Here is the article in a well organized PDF with chapter markers and title pages:  Kingdom Forgiveness: The Basics

According to Matthew 18 we have to choose to forgive. Michael O’Shields introduces this critical aspect of forgiveness.

This video covers several key points in our broader teaching on forgiveness. It focuses on learning to bless, but it also touches forgiving ourselves. The bottom line: we have to choose the way of forgiveness.

Derrick give a rousing public sermon on overcoming adversity through forgiveness and peace with God. Presented to a group of men in recovery from addiction and other challenges this 20 minute talk is heartfelt and genuine.

A testimony from Bernard where he speaks about learning to forgive, and love, himself.

The Requirement to Forgive: Audio Intro

Here is a podcast series posted at Churchthink.com where Ben Pasley has a conversation about the basic requirements for forgiveness. You will find that forgiveness is first a tool to build healthy family.
Forgiveness: The Way of the Kingdom, Part 1
Forgiveness: The Way of the Kingdom, Part 1
Forgiveness: The Way of the Kingdom, Part 1

Download this PDF file: The Requirement to Forgive: Groupsheet and print off for all participants.